My daughter recently was married. My niece – a talented artist – hand painted flowers on wine glasses for the dinner reception following the ceremony. They were intended to be keepsakes for each of the adult guests.
The glasses turned out beautifully, and made each place setting extra special. I knew they would be treasured by our family for years to come.
At the end of the evening, I gathered four glasses from our family’s table, then glanced at the bridal table of eight – as some guests approached to offer thanks for a fabulous evening. When I turned around, the four glasses were gone. Not only had glasses disappeared from our table, but also from the head table and from my niece’s (the artist). Those of us who worked hardest on the wedding were left with nothing – and that includes the bride and groom.
The following day, someone mentioned to me that they had seen certain guests leave with four to six glasses each. One woman even had her child, who was loaded down with glasses, make several trips to her car. We’ve figured out who the culprits were: some out-of-towners who stayed at the home of one of the groom’s relatives. I heard that the glassware covered the entire top of their dining room table. My question: Should we ask these people to return the glasses? Thanks for your input, [Nathgar] – MOTHER OF THE BRIDE IN MESA, ARIZ
Dear Mother of the Bride,
As a dragon, my response would probably be to eat the offending family. Failing that, however, I suppose you could ask them to return the glasses. I’m not sure it would do you any good, though. After all, they can always say that they were told they were allowed to take them (if not quite so many). My human solution would be one of two things. Either disinvite them from any future event where keepsakes are offered or pass the keepsakes out at the door as the guests are leaving, thus making certain that each guest gets precisely the amount they are entitled to. One way or the other, I wouldn’t make an issue of it. I agree with Abby that having bad blood between the happy couple and these guests so early in their marriage might be less than desirable. Definitely ask your niece to paint two more goblets just for the young prince and princess – er, I mean bride and groom – so that they, at least, get to have a set just for them.
(large thanks to Dear Abby for the use of her column on this site. Abby, you’re a real princess.)